Questions Answered: Love, Slumps, Seasonal Depression, and Our Future

How about seasonal depression and ways to combat it? Do you think it really exists?

The concept of “seasonal depression,” or technically known as Season Affective Disorder (SAD), has been well studied in Pschology. However, rather than bore you with technical speak, I would put it this way:

Our moods are greatly influenced by our environment. The lighting in a room can often play a large role on one’s mood while inside it, or the color of the walls can even induce certain emotions on a subconscious level (red has shown to increase aggression). So, when the seasons change, so does the overall lighting and coloring of the world around us.

I often find myself feeling sad on rainy days and happy on sunny ones. Does this happen to you? If so, then you are human! The only problem with this is that you have to consciously decide to counteract the effects the environment has on you. How, you may ask? I believe that the best way is to start by being aware of it. As you notice that certain dreary days bring your mood down, you can try your best to do things that brighten your day – like call an old friend to see how they’re doing.

THE TAKEAWAY: As seasons change, so do the weather conditions. These conditions affect our moods subconsciously and leave it up to our conscious minds to battle their effects. When in doubt, don’t pout! Call a friend to help you out!

How do you put your heart back together after it’s been shattered?

It pains me to answer this question because I know that it must be rooted in some sad experiences, but for this reason I will do my best to answer your question as completely as possible. Healing a broken heart is like tending to a flesh cut:

When one is unfortunate enough to have the sharp edge of a knife cut into their skin, the immediate pain is usually the most intense. With love, it is much the same. As one dwells on the horror and pain that the incident is causing, they actually allow the pain to persist. By contrast, have you ever cut yourself while doing something active and hardly even noticed the pain until later?

The pains of the heart are usually made worse by the mind. In fact, actual emotions only last around 12 minutes – everything else after that is self perpetuated. So, this leads me to the first step in mending a broken heart: Try not to dwell on it.

Next, its time to get out the Neosporin and Band-Aids and take care of the wound. When it comes to the heart, this involves finding closure for the issue. This can take on many forms but often involves completely understanding why the relationship ended in the first place. A logical “Band-Aid” must be applied before the emotional cuts can begin to heal.

THE TAKEAWAY: Do your best not to dwell on it. Take the necessary actions to find closure and allow time to do the rest. Yes, time does heal all wounds, but it will leave a nasty scar if the would isn’t taken care of properly.

Why do bad things happen to good people?

This is quite a difficult question to answer since it is rather ambiguous and means something different to different people. I think that a personal philosophy would be best for you to come to an understanding of this issue:

Bad things happen to good and bad peoplegood things happen to good and bad people. The key here would be to ask yourself how you will approach the next unfair situation you see in the course your life in which a good person suffers. Some things to consider:

Did the person have any control over the issue?

Was there a chain of events that led to it?

Was the outcome justified in any way?

The reason I believe these questions are valuable to consider is because they will help you to better understand what has happened yourself. As with the broken heart question above, if you dwell on it too much it will only make the issue more prevalant in your mind. Understanding it, however, will allow you to dispell those sad thoughts it provokes and find the positive in the situation.

THE TAKEAWAY: When something bad happens to a good person, do your best to understand why that has happened. Is there any positive that has come out of it? In the end, try not to dwell on it. There is positivity everywhere… yet it is only visible to those who are looking for it.

How do we stop worrying about things we can’t control?

A very common issue for people is the ability to deal with uncertainty as it comes up. Worrying about things out of one’s control only serves to produce anxiety for that individual. So, I would refer you to my Anxiety preceding this one.

THE TAKEAWAY: Come to terms with why something is out of your control – Make peace with the fact that you are only responsible for that which you can control, everything else is up to fate.
How do we get ourselves out of a slump and think positive when things aren’t going the way we want?

I find myself dealing with this issue on a weekly, sometimes daily, basis. Here is what works for me:

Remind yourself of ALL the reasons you have to think positive. These can be the loving relationships in your life, the past successes you’ve had, or the great things in the future you have to look forward to. All you need is that little motivation to start moving out of your slump and momentum will carry you the rest of the way.

THE TAKEAWAY: Everyone has something positive they can focus on – past, present, or future. So, when you find yourself in a slump, find a few positive things to focus on and let their brightness shed light on your gloomy days.

How does the knowledge worker of today prepare for the right brain trends that we see ahead? How will that affect our professional and personal lives?

This is a great question, however, it is difficult to prove with facts. I assume that when you refer to “brain trends,” you mean the ways in which our brains will adapt to the use of technology. These changes will greatly affect the way our world works.

Preparation for this change is simply a matter of learning what is available, how to use it, and what works for you personally. There will be an increasingly limitless number of tools and new technologies appearing in the next decade and we, as individuals, will have two options. Fight, flight, or assimilate. Since, as we already know, resistance seems to be futile, I’d say assimilate, assimilate, assimilate. It is no coincidence that the most machine-like of species in Star Trek’s portrayal of our future lived by such a motto. In our time, assimilation has become crucial for success.

Another key point is that we are humans. And, by nature, we are social beings. We will move in the way that society takes us. Much like the hands on a Ouija Board piece, there is no individual factor driving this change – only a combination of lots of small factors. I feel that the most important of those factors will be sociality and success. As social beings, we desire communication with others AND a desire to have enough success to be able to achieve high social value (money, business/life success).  We want to talk to others and talk about how great we are. The technological trends that allow us to do these things MORE will be the future.

THE TAKEAWAY: Our humanistic desire to be social and assert social dominance will be the strongest drivers for upcoming technological changes. All we can do to prepare is assimilate, assimilate, assimilate… Or, find a way to be better at it than everyone else. Which will you choose?

To those of you who submitted questions – I thank you. It warms my heart to know that there are people out there reading this stuff. Please feel free to comment in reference to any of the questions addressed in this post – whether you submitted a question or not.

With Love,


2 thoughts on “Questions Answered: Love, Slumps, Seasonal Depression, and Our Future

  1. This is a great article and I really enjoyed. I feel the same way about rainy days but I do use it to my advantage. So on rainy days I now look at it as a day in which I’m not really missing out on anything because it’s raining. It motivates me to get a lot of projects I have held off done because it’s not like I can go to the beach or anything, it’s raining.

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