So if you haven’t noticed already, I love the ambiguous titles. Hopefully when you read this one you thought, “The Trial Error… doesn’t he mean Trial AND Error.” Well, the answer to that question is no. Here’s why:
What I mean by the trial error is best explained by this dialogue:
“Johnny, don’t touch the stove. It’s VERY hot.”
“Okay Mom. I won’t… ssssssstt OUCH!”
“Why did you do that Johnny? I JUST told you not to touch the stove.”
Still in pain, “I don’t know Mom. I just felt like I had to.”
In this situation, Johnny touched the hot stove regardless of the fact that he was warned of the consequences. In life, I find that virtually everyone, including myself, makes this same mistake. Then it dawned on me why people do this.
As we all mature throughout our lives, we accumulate different life experiences that mold us into who we are. The more experiences one has (whether simply because of age or life style), the more “mature” one is. And so, as we approach the hot stove situations in our lives, like getting into a serious relationship with the wrong person or driving 15+ mph above the speed limit, the little Johnny in each of us does it anyway. And then afterward we think, “Why did I just do that? I don’t understand…”
I believe that the answer to that question is this: If we equate experience to maturity in our society, then lack of experience is then equated to immaturity. And since immaturity has such a strong negative connotation in the adult world, no one wants it. Living a life without ever having dated the wrong person only leaves us wondering… exactly what kind of person is wrong? In addition, if that person ever wants to give relationship advice to someone in the future, how will they ever be able to show credibility. Without being able to say, “Ooohhh man, I’ve definitely made that mistake before. Watch out!” then what do we have?
THE TAKEAWAY: If you find yourself constantly ignoring the advice of others, learning the hard way, and burning your hand on stoves, then maybe its time to question why. If your reason for touching the stove is to prove to yourself that its actually hot, then maybe you should consider the consequences to making a Trial Error before you do. If having that life experience under your belt is worth it, then go for it. But if the consequences involve 3rd degree burns, I’d say stay away.