The Big Picture

Now imagine the pitter patter of little toddler feet bumbling down the hallway. A baby out on a journey! Everything about that journey is glittered by the newness and amazingness of everything around us. This carpet feels funny. That wall makes a sound when I touch it. But that feeling fades with time, unfailingly, as we begin to conquer the tasks that hadn’t once seemed so easy. To maintain that amazement state we crave to conquer more and more difficult tasks. And with time our mind aligns with the way we spend our time, climbing higher on the staircase than ever before or learning how to roll forward on the floor. A wonderful process blossoms as we make our way through a system designed to both challenge and represent our desire to continue learning. But for some reason this blossom’s loss of color begins when we decide in our minds to get a job. What is a job? Is it a socially decided upon way of converting human energy into economic energy? And economic energy for the sake of what? To provide us with more presents? Presents, we all know sometimes, just don’t cut it. What we’ve always been looking for lies behind the only place one would never consider looking for. The place behind the Irises is indicated by the entrance to the now. Only in the now do presents become presence, an all becomes a one.

 

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We All Know Nothing is Perfect, but….

You have a project your supposed to do and you spend HOURS AND HOURS on it. You continue to revise, improve, fix, and slave over it. When its “done” you step away and all of a sudden realize 14 other things about it that still need to be fixed. Ever been in this situation? I sure have, and when ever I have been faced with it I usually settle down and remind myself, “Hey, nothings perfect.” Well, that is precisely the wisdom I would like to expand upon today.

If you have the desire to be perfect (or near it) in whatever you do, and you know that nothing is perfect, then why not be nothing? Maybe that seems strange to think about or for some reason it doesn’t click right away. But when you think about it, it is actually quite simple. If you’re anything like me, a bit of a perfectionist sometimes, then its likely that when you set out to accomplish a goal or task, you structure your action so that you can finish as close to “perfect” as possible. So in your mind, you believe that creating a perfect outcome will then project onto who you are. However, if I followed that logic, it would seem that because I am able to write these blogs about complex things, I must be perfect in how I execute them in my life. Well I hate to break it to you, that’s actually dead wrong.

Which leads me to the crux of this topic: That very discrepancy, between the things I write here and how I apply them in my life, is actually a manifestation of the “nothing” mindset. To reiterate, I saw that no matter how well I can put advice into words, I still make those very same mistakes, even after the fact. Earlier in my life, I wanted to be perfect at everything I did – and failed at it relentlessly. In essence, wanting to be perfect is equivalent to living in constant failure. So why not do the opposite? If you want to be ________ (read: nothing) then there is no failure. And if there is no failure then all that remains is success.

eye am nothing

 

THE TAKEAWAY: This may be hard to wrap your head around, and it obviously has been for me since it has taken me my entire life thus far to put into words, let alone practice. But it really is as simple as this: if we view thoughts as tools, then having the thought “I am nothing” can function as a way of creating the resulting mindset of permanent and constant success. Think about the person who runs a dog rehabilitation clinic in a small town and loves every minute of it. They probably don’t have the money to travel freely, drive nice cars, motivate masses of people, or experience success in the traditional sense of the word. And yet, because they realize they don’t have to be any of those things (in other words, nothing) they are free to see themselves in their current situation as successful. Success and failure are really one in the same. Steve Jobs will be viewed of by most as a success for his contributions to the technological world. And yet, he will be view by a lesser number of people as a failure for silent conversations at restaurants – iPhones in hand, or for not taking care of his family (he had a daughter out of wedlock with whom he spent very little time with), and the list could go on forever. So I ask that today, throw out your traditional thoughts about being successful. Stop trying to be something you’re not – in fact, stop trying to be something at all. Try being nothing for a change. After all, you really can’t fail? So what do you have to lose?

 

 

 

Reconcile the Reptile

Tens of thousands of years ago, our ancestors’ lives were very similar to any other animal. They spent most of their time grazing plains looking for food, hunting game, and watching out for things hunting them. When faced with danger, our natural defense mechanism, the limbic system, would send adrenaline to all the most necessary parts of our body so we could do one thing – STAY ALIVE! Most other living creatures on this planet also have this system. Fittingly, the part of the brain that controls the limbic system is commonly known as the reptilian brain.

Now, think for a second about the last lizard you saw. It was probably sitting on a rock somewhere, eyes wide, unmoving except for its breathing. If you’re anything like me and tried to get closer or even catch it, its likely that it ran away from you before you could even make up your mind to do so. This example highlights two interesting concepts – First, there’s no way to reason with the lizard and tell it you are only going to pet it. It just reacts. Second, the lizard responds so quickly that we hardly even have time to get close to it. This is because the reptilian brain, which we share, is specifically designed to get us moving and save our lives. Nothing else.

What is most interesting about this is that we no longer really “need” this brain to survive. Or at least, not nearly as much as our ancestors did. And yet, its still there in each of us – always watching out for danger, listening for overly loud noises and avoiding cliffs at all costs. Unless we really are in a life threatening situation and need to protect ourselves, the reptilian brain doesn’t have much to do. So instead it helps us to protect other things – children, friends, possessions, ego – from danger. It is responsible for the quick hands that catch your wobbling toddler and reminds you to keep your eyes on your wallet in a dangerous part of town. It’s always there watching out for us, which seems like a great thing. But what many of us often don’t realize is how overprotective it actually is.

Have you ever thought about starting something new, a project or company, only to talk yourself out of it before you start? Right now I’m in the process of building a company from the ground up and let me tell you, this happens almost everyday for me. But recently after watching this TED talk by Seth Godin, I realized that it wasn’t really “me” talking myself out those things. It was the reptilian brain watching out for me – steering me away from potential danger. “No Jeremy, you don’t need to learn how to use that new program. It will probably be too difficult and take too much time.” But, what the reptilian brain calls “danger” is really just risk. And if risk is a situation where it is possible to fail, then the reptilian brain only knows one way to help us – convince us to stop taking risks. For our ancestors, risk meant life or death. Today, risk means success or failure. So what is there to do?

THE TAKEAWAY: At first, I was a little angry at my reptile. I mean, how could it do that to me? Constantly knocking me down when I was so close to succeeding. Encouraging me to stay in my comfort zone where it could keep me safe. Well, now that I’ve wised up a bit, I’m not going to take it anymore. My reptile and I sat down recently to have a little talk, we laid everything out on the table and now, we understand each other quite well. He knows that I only need him to help with matters of life and death and that I can handle something as harmless as a little failure on my own. Have you and your reptile talked lately? If not, maybe it’s time you do. Trust me, in the end it will be less work for him anyway.

Opening

“Oh… Jeremy, today you have a class with some parents,” my CoTeacher told me, almost one year ago. “Really?!? What am I supposed to teach them?” I responded. “I don’t know, just talk with them.” And so it began. Every Wednesday for this past year, I would meet two of my students’ Mothers for a little English class. One of them spoke pretty well and the other could hardly understand a word I was saying. And yet, every week she kept showing up to class with this look of fear, nervousness, and distain in her eyes. “I kentuh speak Engrishi,” were the first words I ever heard her say and she said them with such low self confidence it hurt me to see it.

Quickly I realized that I wasn’t going to be teaching appositives or prepositional phrases and decided that instead of teaching them, I was just going to help them learn.  Since I was learning their language also, it made it a lot easier. I used pictures to show them that if they just continue to study a little everyday, over time, they would improve. We laughed a lot – at awkward moments and silly situations – and each week they became more and more comfortable with me. As my Korean caught up to their English level, we began to have mixed conversations about life, Korean culture, their children, and traveling the world. We shared experiences of frustration with learning language and laughed together. Whenever I was sick at home, I would receive a half English half Korean text message telling me to feel better and to cheer up. Our classes really became a highlight of our week, and I found out yesterday exactly why.

HeeJung is a 45 year old mother of two high school students, her husband is an English teacher at a prestigious high school in Seoul, and she hasn’t driven a car a day in her life. Her laugh is utterly contagious and she really shines in a group setting, that is, when she’s the one talking. Last night, her and the other two mothers from this semester took me out to a nice steak restaurant near my house to say their goodbyes. At the end of the dinner, HeeJung turned to me and mustered the courage to tell me something in Konglish (I’ve translated): One morning a few months ago, I woke up and thought something strange. I thought to myself, ‘Is Jeremy really my friend?’ At first I had many prejudices about him. He is younger than me, a man, a foreigner and my teacher. In Korea, woman are not supposed to be friends with men. In Korea, we are only friends with people of the same age. I have always been afraid of foreigners and I was always taught that my teachers were above me and cannot be friends. But that day I realized that I really do consider you a friend. Thank you for that. Thank you for always encouraging me. Now I feel like I am much more confident. Have a wonderful last month in Korea and I miss you already. 

THE TAKEAWAY: After pushing my tears of joy away, we took pictures together and made our way to the door. It was the strangest feeling – so bittersweet. But as I left them I realized what this experience has taught me about life – open yourself and others will open to you. From day one I was doing my best to learn their language, and I was always positive, and encouraged them as best I could. HeeJung had especially low confidence, believing herself to be “only a housewife.” Everyday I reminded her of why she was learning English and that it can be easy and fun if she learns to see it that way. The walls that she had to knock down to let me in are enormous here in Korea. Many of those things she said simply aren’t done. But this all just goes to show that rules are made to be broken, and minds are meant to be open. So please, let’s open ourselves up to the world and maybe… just maybe… the world will open itself to us.

A good friend…

You ALWAYS Have A Choice: Failures and Strikes

The last few days have been a little tough for me. I have been trying to keep in mind the things I have written about, and hold myself to them. But last night, I failed.

I was at a bar with a friend of mine with whom I have become very close, Song Mook. He lived in America for one year during high school, so his English is exceptionally good, and he and I have found that we have a lot in common as far as what we want out of life and the way we view the world. So we have been spending a lot of time together, talking and playing pool at bars in our area, one of which we were at last night. We were sitting at the table talking about random things when he leaned in and said, “Hey, want to practice your Korean?” Immediately I felt something leap in my stomach like a frog that had just been rudely awakened. “Sure…” I answered, inwardly unsure. “I want you to walk over to those people playing pool and tell them we would like to play next game. Here’s how: eegan… tah oom meh… oo dee…” Before he had even finished the sentence, I could hear that voice in my mind telling me I couldn’t do it. It was telling me that they probably wouldn’t understand me, and would laugh at me right away for even trying.

Logically, I knew they wouldn’t do that. I was quite certain of it and, even if they had, should that really matter to me anyway? After a little practice and Song’s encouragement, I got up and walked over to the table. Waiting on the side, my nervousness reached an all time high. I felt like I was at a middle school dance again waiting for one specific girl to catch my eye so I could say that one sentence I was repeating in my head over and over. And yet, in this situation, even though that sentence was in a different language, I was afraid of the very same thing. “What if they laugh at me? What if they don’t understand me and I’m caught off guard? What if.. what if.. what if…” As their game came to an end, and my nervousness overcame me, the moment passed and they asked Song in Korean if we wanted to play next. I was so disappointed in myself.

For the remainder of last night, I stayed focused on two major failures. One, my inability to overcome my nervousness by living in the moment and two, the fact that I lost a perfectly good chance to prove something to myself. And what seemed to compound the feeling, was the fact that I had just written two blogs recently regarding those two specific topics. When I woke up this morning, I called my girlfriend and told her what had happened. And she, ever so eloquently, made everything make sense to me in one swift sentence. “Your failure wasn’t being too nervous and missing the chance to prove something to yourself, your failure was not recognizing how this experience can make you better.” She went on to explain to me that this situation in itself was practice for the future. The disappointment I experienced would simply go toward motivating me not to be so nervous next time and to study harder.

THE TAKEAWAY: Thirty minutes ago when all the dust from this conversation with her settled in my mind, I looked out my window at the sunny sky and realized what I wanted to write about today. We always have a choice. Every pitch life throws at us, we have the decision to swing or not. There is no umpire. No one to tell us we’re about to strike out. No crowd yelling, “HEEYYY BATTA BATTA BATTA!!! HEEYY!!!” We are simply standing there alone, and the choice is always ours. We can choose to look back at all the strikes that have flown by untouched, or we can choose to look forward to the infinite pitches we still have the chance to swing at. So today, I say to you, and to myself, pick a spot out in the stands, point to it, and swing away baby.

Swing, swing away.

The Language Barrier: A Mysterious Chasm

A Leap of Faith

So my first few weeks in Korea have been very eventful, interesting, and educational. I have had my good days, my bad, and those in between. Right now, I feel like sharing something that my Korean friends here have helped me to learn. This thing we call “the language barrier” is really not much of a barrier at all.

Do you remember that scene in Indiana Jones where he has to cross the invisible bridge? At first, it seems impossible. Then, he takes a handful of sand, and throws it out into the “air.” Miraculously, it lands on the bridge and shows him the way to cross the chasm. This is very much how I feel here.

Last summer, I met some Korean people in my study abroad program in Germany. I have seen two of them here thus far, Jonghwa and Soo Jin. Although sometimes they struggle with how to say what it is they want to say in English, we still seem to understand each other. In just three short weeks I have been working with my Korean coteacher, Nora, and we have come to know each other quite well. This barrier that I used to be afraid of – the language barrier- no longer seems so difficult to pass through. It now seems like an invisible bridge, with sand visualizing the path across.

All of them have done so much to help me. Soo Jin helped me get a cell phone here, haggling with the store clerk and asking him EVERY question in the book to make sure I knew what I was getting myself into. Jonghwa showed me his hometown, had his mother cook dinner for me, and sent me home with a bag of fruit. He then called me today to tell me that he saw that the weather was going to be cold, and wanted to make sure that I would dress warm this week so I wouldn’t get sick. Nora has gone out of her way to help me settle into my home. She saved me from accidentally using bleach on all my clothes, ran to the bank with me on Friday to make sure I could set up an account so that I could get access to my money, and cheers me up on a daily basis when the students are difficult.

THE TAKEAWAY: At times, I feel like I am an outcast in the country. The language barrier seems to separate me from these people, and at times makes it seem impossible to fit in. And then I realize that there is a universal language that is far more valuable. The language of compassion and friendship – the sand over the invisible bridge – has begun to show me the way.

 

Is Standing Out Really So Bad? Embarrassment and Self-Confidence

Try to imagine the last time you were in a situation where you felt supremely confident. Whether you were playing scrabble with a couple 9 years olds or doing whatever it is you do best, makes no difference. Now, do you remember the apprehensiveness that came about when you thought about how confident you were in that situation? Were you afraid that showing your higher ability in that situation would distance you from the others in the group?

There’s a certain type of fear associated with standing out in most social situations. If you are at a restaurant and sneeze, for instance, everyone notices. Or if you are in a doctor’s waiting room and you laugh far too loud, everyone looks at you. Most of us react to this situation with embarrassment or even shame. Why is that? 

Standing out implies greatly differentiating ourselves from those around us in some way. And as racism and stereotypes have taught us, anything that is different, is socially “unacceptable.” So, by definition anything that causes us to stand out is suppressed by the invisible hand of society. Right? But what about self confidence? Do we suppress this as well?

I can remember vividly being in the 5th grade and being quite happy with a grade that I received on a math test. I received the test and saw the large “A” at the top in red ink. And yet, before the surprise had even began to subside I heard my friend across from me say, “HEY! What’d you get???” Instinctually, I flipped my paper over and swiftly slipped it into my backpack, as if I had received a terrible score. My friend then proceeded to tease me for getting a bad grade, and I went on with my day feeling better about myself because I had done that. But what is wrong with this picture? Why was I, and I’m sure many others can relate, so afraid to show my own self confidence in that situation?

THE TAKEAWAY: Humans are social beings. We are hard wired to form social groups based on situations, common interests, and values. And yet, sometimes those hard wired habits lead us to suppress the very abilities that we should be proud of. So today, I challenge you to question why you suppress the outstanding qualities you have? If you have surrounded yourself with people who make you feel guilty for such qualities, maybe new surroundings are needed. If you simply feel more comfortable hiding behind the social wall, maybe its time to step into the light. In the words of the author and poet Marianne Williams,

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

So please, be confident. And give others the gift that you have been lucky enough to find yourself. Shine.

STAND OUT

Be Unreasonable: The Boat Needs Some Rocking

In my last post I left you with one of my favorite quotes:

“The reasonable man spends all his time adapting to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable man.”    

George Bernard ShawMan and Superman (1903) “Maxims for Revolutionists”

Today, I wanted to discuss it a bit more in depth. Maybe when you read the title you thought, “why would I want to be unreasonable?” And you’re right in thinking so, because the word UNreasonable has such a negative connotation in our society. But, thats precisely why I like it.

The negative connotation given to the word unreasonable comes from the basic idea that being reasonable is the best way to live. Think about it, from a young age we are told that we should go to school, get good grades, get into a good college, work hard, get a good job, settle down, and have a good family. But what if you want to live a GREAT life? I never once heard anyone say, “Work hard in school young man, so you can get a great job.” I hope that even in reading that you can hear how odd it sounds.

So why does society do this to us?

WHY CAN'T I JUST BE GREAT LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE???

Well, unfortunately, if they didn’t teach us to strive for good, all hell would break lose. This is because if everyone was “great,” then that would be the norm. And if that were the norm, then greatness would lose its meaning. This is an interesting paradox because greatness implies standing out, rejecting the status quo, and being abnormal. So how could we make being abnormal… normal? You guessed it… Its impossible.

THE TAKEAWAY: The next time someone tells you to be a bit more reasonable, maybe you should question their motivations. Are they trying to stifle you? Or are they just trying to make sure you don’t rock the boat? Perhaps deep down, they themselves were too afraid to rock the boat and want to see you do the same – misery does love company.

Every single one of you has greatness inside of you, so don’t be afraid to let it shine. For if you do, you will give those around you permission to do the same. The world needs you.

The Trial Error: We All Do It… But Why?

So if you haven’t noticed already, I love the ambiguous titles. Hopefully when you read this one you thought, “The Trial Error… doesn’t he mean Trial AND Error.” Well, the answer to that question is no. Here’s why:

What I mean by the trial error is best explained by this dialogue:

“Johnny, don’t touch the stove. It’s VERY hot.” 

“Okay Mom. I won’t… ssssssstt OUCH!”

“Why did you do that Johnny? I JUST told you not to touch the stove.”

Still in pain, “I don’t know Mom. I just felt like I had to.”

Sometimes learning the hard way hurts.

In this situation, Johnny touched the hot stove regardless of the fact that he was warned of the consequences. In life, I find that virtually everyone, including myself, makes this same mistake. Then it dawned on me why people do this.

As we all mature throughout our lives, we accumulate different life experiences that mold us into who we are. The more experiences one has (whether simply because of age or life style), the more “mature” one is. And so, as we approach the hot stove situations in our lives, like getting into a serious relationship with the wrong person or driving 15+ mph above the speed limit, the little Johnny in each of us does it anyway. And then afterward we think, “Why did I just do that? I don’t understand…”

I believe that the answer to that question is this: If we equate experience to maturity in our society, then lack of experience is then equated to immaturity. And since immaturity has such a strong negative connotation in the adult world, no one wants it. Living a life without ever having dated the wrong person only leaves us wondering… exactly what kind of person is wrong? In addition, if that person ever wants to give relationship advice to someone in the future, how will they ever be able to show credibility. Without being able to say, “Ooohhh man, I’ve definitely made that mistake before. Watch out!” then what do we have?

THE TAKEAWAY: If you find yourself constantly ignoring the advice of others, learning the hard way, and burning your hand on stoves, then maybe its time to question why. If your reason for touching the stove is to prove to yourself that its actually hot, then maybe you should consider the consequences to making a Trial Error before you do. If having that life experience under your belt is worth it, then go for it. But if the consequences involve 3rd degree burns, I’d say stay away.

Questions Answered: Love, Slumps, Seasonal Depression, and Our Future

How about seasonal depression and ways to combat it? Do you think it really exists?

The concept of “seasonal depression,” or technically known as Season Affective Disorder (SAD), has been well studied in Pschology. However, rather than bore you with technical speak, I would put it this way:

Our moods are greatly influenced by our environment. The lighting in a room can often play a large role on one’s mood while inside it, or the color of the walls can even induce certain emotions on a subconscious level (red has shown to increase aggression). So, when the seasons change, so does the overall lighting and coloring of the world around us.

I often find myself feeling sad on rainy days and happy on sunny ones. Does this happen to you? If so, then you are human! The only problem with this is that you have to consciously decide to counteract the effects the environment has on you. How, you may ask? I believe that the best way is to start by being aware of it. As you notice that certain dreary days bring your mood down, you can try your best to do things that brighten your day – like call an old friend to see how they’re doing.

THE TAKEAWAY: As seasons change, so do the weather conditions. These conditions affect our moods subconsciously and leave it up to our conscious minds to battle their effects. When in doubt, don’t pout! Call a friend to help you out!

How do you put your heart back together after it’s been shattered?

It pains me to answer this question because I know that it must be rooted in some sad experiences, but for this reason I will do my best to answer your question as completely as possible. Healing a broken heart is like tending to a flesh cut:

When one is unfortunate enough to have the sharp edge of a knife cut into their skin, the immediate pain is usually the most intense. With love, it is much the same. As one dwells on the horror and pain that the incident is causing, they actually allow the pain to persist. By contrast, have you ever cut yourself while doing something active and hardly even noticed the pain until later?

The pains of the heart are usually made worse by the mind. In fact, actual emotions only last around 12 minutes – everything else after that is self perpetuated. So, this leads me to the first step in mending a broken heart: Try not to dwell on it.

Next, its time to get out the Neosporin and Band-Aids and take care of the wound. When it comes to the heart, this involves finding closure for the issue. This can take on many forms but often involves completely understanding why the relationship ended in the first place. A logical “Band-Aid” must be applied before the emotional cuts can begin to heal.

THE TAKEAWAY: Do your best not to dwell on it. Take the necessary actions to find closure and allow time to do the rest. Yes, time does heal all wounds, but it will leave a nasty scar if the would isn’t taken care of properly.

Why do bad things happen to good people?

This is quite a difficult question to answer since it is rather ambiguous and means something different to different people. I think that a personal philosophy would be best for you to come to an understanding of this issue:

Bad things happen to good and bad peoplegood things happen to good and bad people. The key here would be to ask yourself how you will approach the next unfair situation you see in the course your life in which a good person suffers. Some things to consider:

Did the person have any control over the issue?

Was there a chain of events that led to it?

Was the outcome justified in any way?

The reason I believe these questions are valuable to consider is because they will help you to better understand what has happened yourself. As with the broken heart question above, if you dwell on it too much it will only make the issue more prevalant in your mind. Understanding it, however, will allow you to dispell those sad thoughts it provokes and find the positive in the situation.

THE TAKEAWAY: When something bad happens to a good person, do your best to understand why that has happened. Is there any positive that has come out of it? In the end, try not to dwell on it. There is positivity everywhere… yet it is only visible to those who are looking for it.


How do we stop worrying about things we can’t control?

A very common issue for people is the ability to deal with uncertainty as it comes up. Worrying about things out of one’s control only serves to produce anxiety for that individual. So, I would refer you to my Anxiety preceding this one.

THE TAKEAWAY: Come to terms with why something is out of your control – Make peace with the fact that you are only responsible for that which you can control, everything else is up to fate.
How do we get ourselves out of a slump and think positive when things aren’t going the way we want?

I find myself dealing with this issue on a weekly, sometimes daily, basis. Here is what works for me:

Remind yourself of ALL the reasons you have to think positive. These can be the loving relationships in your life, the past successes you’ve had, or the great things in the future you have to look forward to. All you need is that little motivation to start moving out of your slump and momentum will carry you the rest of the way.

THE TAKEAWAY: Everyone has something positive they can focus on – past, present, or future. So, when you find yourself in a slump, find a few positive things to focus on and let their brightness shed light on your gloomy days.

How does the knowledge worker of today prepare for the right brain trends that we see ahead? How will that affect our professional and personal lives?

This is a great question, however, it is difficult to prove with facts. I assume that when you refer to “brain trends,” you mean the ways in which our brains will adapt to the use of technology. These changes will greatly affect the way our world works.

Preparation for this change is simply a matter of learning what is available, how to use it, and what works for you personally. There will be an increasingly limitless number of tools and new technologies appearing in the next decade and we, as individuals, will have two options. Fight, flight, or assimilate. Since, as we already know, resistance seems to be futile, I’d say assimilate, assimilate, assimilate. It is no coincidence that the most machine-like of species in Star Trek’s portrayal of our future lived by such a motto. In our time, assimilation has become crucial for success.

Another key point is that we are humans. And, by nature, we are social beings. We will move in the way that society takes us. Much like the hands on a Ouija Board piece, there is no individual factor driving this change – only a combination of lots of small factors. I feel that the most important of those factors will be sociality and success. As social beings, we desire communication with others AND a desire to have enough success to be able to achieve high social value (money, business/life success).  We want to talk to others and talk about how great we are. The technological trends that allow us to do these things MORE will be the future.

THE TAKEAWAY: Our humanistic desire to be social and assert social dominance will be the strongest drivers for upcoming technological changes. All we can do to prepare is assimilate, assimilate, assimilate… Or, find a way to be better at it than everyone else. Which will you choose?

To those of you who submitted questions – I thank you. It warms my heart to know that there are people out there reading this stuff. Please feel free to comment in reference to any of the questions addressed in this post – whether you submitted a question or not.

With Love,

Chad